Ways to Get Your Ex Back

1. The first thing you need to do is think about and understand why you broke up in the first place. What caused it…was it you? Was one or both of you controlling, mean, abusive or possessive? Did one of you cheat on the other? These are the questions that must be answered. Also if any of those things was the culprit of your breakup then you really need to think long and hard if you really want to go back to that kind of relationship.

2. Be the person your ex fell in love with. As we spend more time with one another the passion and romance that was so great in the beginning fades. This is common with most relationships and contributes to the breakup. Just think about it, you ex was attracted to you because he/she felt good with you. You made them feel special and loved. So what happened…have you changed? Correct bad habits and mistakes if any and be positive around your ex. Become the person they once fell in love with.

3. Think about all the good time and positive moments in your relationship and use the past to your advantage. Maybe he/she liked your hair a certain style or a particular outfit you wore so wear it again.

4. Another effective way to get your ex back is to casually ask if he'd like to do something non-committal, like have a drink with friends, play miniature golf, play tennis, etc. Something friends can also do to not make he/she feel uncomfortable. The key thing is to make it fun. The last thing you want to do is start having serious talks…at least not yet. There will be plenty of time for that later. Reason being many people after a breakup may feel threatened. If your ex initiates the discussion then follow their lead. But don’t spend too much time at this point.

5. Let them know you were thinking about them. The key word here is “were” not “I am thinking of you” as this comes across as you are thinking of them all the time. Maybe you had lunch at a restaurant the two of you ate at. Email him/her a short email letting them know you recently ate their and thought of them. Ask them how are they…this is a non-threatening way to begin light conversion.

6. At this point you want to invite your ex to talk letting him/her know you have had time to think about things and regret things ended the way they did. Now is the time to let your ex know how you really feel about them and be understanding of their feelings as well.